How do you win the battle of will?

I love feeding my girls.  They're 7 months old.  They don't know what they're doing.  It's a socio-science experiment.  What will they like?  What will they hate?  Will they clamp their mouth shut?  Will Ellie like one thing and Evie another? Jen and I treat every bite like it's fun and tasty.  "Mmmmmm", "Yummmyyyyy", "Yaaaaaaay".   We smile.  We pretend like we're chewing and swallowing. I learned quickly that it's not about them eating the food.  It's about enjoying the experience of … [Read more...]

Are you playing with Legos or with Jenga?

  Building ideas is like playing with Legos.  It's not like playing Jenga. Your ideas are the blocks.  Putting them together is the execution. The nice thing about Legos ... You can build one thing, take it apart and build something completely different.  You have the flexibility to innovate and pivot.  You can go back and then forward again. Put your ideas into action.  If it's not right, take them apart and put them together differently.  Building ideas is not about keeping … [Read more...]

Here today, gone …

  It's easy to get caught up in writing something well.  We worry about each piece being laid properly.  The concern is that everything else will tumble down if we don't do it right.  This presents a problem.  You become a slave to the form instead of the servant to your idea. I can always go back and correct the form after the idea is born onto paper (or screen).  I can't recapture the thought sparked in the ether that vanished into thin air while I was looking for where to put a … [Read more...]

What if you asked differently?

  What if I fail? One the most common reason we don't take action is the fear of "what if". What if they say no What if it doesnt go well What if they don't like me What if they ask questions and I don't know the answer What if I look dumb Here are some more "what ifs" to ask: What if you look back in 10 years and your in the same place you're in now What if you become irrelevant What if you have nobody to blame but yourself By avoiding the first set of what … [Read more...]

A picture’s worth a thousand words

  We think in pictures.  If someone asks you to think of a million dollars, you think of a pile of cash or a filled out check.  There might be some language written on the check ... but the language is part of a picture. There's a simple reason for this.  Language isn't real.  Words are an invention. We use words to represent the pictures we see in our head.  People we speak to paint a picture in their head based on the words we use. Many of us don't use words well.  They're … [Read more...]

Don’t melt away, snowflake

One is the loneliest number that there ever was.  Sometimes I get trapped in my head thinking of the impact I want to have on the world.  I crave a more meaningful and significant life.  Whenever I'm stuck in this place, I am alone.  I don't see myself connected to others. Nobody has ever accomplished anything in this world alone. Any change in the world you admire required someone to work with others (even if indirectly).  They made the invisible idea in their head real to others. A … [Read more...]

Apples & Oranges

  We were talking about what a great team we would be.  I'd be the idea person.  She'd be the doer ... making the ideas happen.  She is the doer.  I need to do a lot more to make my ideas compared to how I thought it'd be.  At least more than just speak them. The twins never end.  They are well behaved.  They sleep well.  They eat well.  They don't cry for no reason (Thank, God). Yet it seems that at least one needs some attention and any point and time.  It seems there's never a … [Read more...]

The Faithful Sacrifice

  Faith is beyond belief.  It is a trust that engenders action.  It is seen when we leap, trusting the net will appear.  Don't trust that a net will appear?  You'll just stand on the ledge.  Waiting. Many have ideas they believe in.  How many have faith in those ideas?  Those who believe talk about how they know the idea is great.  Those with faith do something to make it real. Entrepreneurs are towers of faith.  They fight to make their idea become real in the world.  They believe … [Read more...]

The under-used, not so secret way to a life of riches

  I was on my way out the door this morning.  Jen grabbed me.  She took me by my shoulders.  She put me square in front of her.  She looked me dead in the eye.  And started speaking. "Thank you for getting Ellie up this morning and starting to feed her.""Thank you for taking care of Evie.""Thank you for making the bottles.""Thank you for making lunches.""Thank you for putting toothpaste on my toothbrush.""Thank you for filling my perfume bottle."My eyes moistened.  My breathing … [Read more...]

Wish You Were Here

I get lost in the act of wishing. I wish I played tennis more.  I wish I were more extroverted.   I wish I played guitar better.  I wish I did a better job of marketing this blog. I wish those jeans I got a couple of years ago weren't so tight. I wish I were more comfortable (and effective) at networking.  I wish that I wrote (and published) more often.  I wish I were taller.  I wish I called my mom more often.  I wish I didn't have a commute. I wish I had published a book  by now. I wish I … [Read more...]