Mind over matter

Shawshank Redemption was nearing the end. I watched Red travel on the bus going to Fort Hancock, Texas. It struck me.  No one on that bus was listening to a Walkman, iPod, reading something on their phone or tablet.  It was a long, quiet ride from Maine to Texas. A bit over 30 years ago, Sony invented the Walkman. It was a first.  You could take your music with you. And block out the rest of the world with stereo headphones. Jogging and walking no longer had to be a slow silent slog.  The … [Read more...]

Step away from the elephant

I found myself standing in front of a grey wall.  I felt like I encountered an insurmountable obstacle.  Then I reached out to to the wall. Odd, it's rough and warm.  I look around.  I step away.  I see an elephant. The only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.  First, you need to know you have elephant to eat.  Sometimes we get to close.  We lose perspective.  We get lost in the perspective.. Step away from the elephant.  Then pick your first bite. Related articles On … [Read more...]

Shine on, you crazy diamond

Most people want to shine like a diamond.  We want to be highly valued.  We want to be unique.  We want to be admired.  We want to be seen as beautiful. Diamonds are formed at the Earth's mantle.  90 miles from the Earth's surface.  Carbon is transformed to diamonds.  Under great pressure, at temperatures around 2000 degrees,  molecular structure is changed. Volcanic eruptions hurl diamonds to the surface.  The diamonds are mined (found), cut and polished.  A diamond goes through a lot … [Read more...]

The biggest secret to time management

  A few months ago, I tried to fit left over soup in a container.  Jen told me that it wouldn't fit.  I insisted it would. I cleaned up soup that overflowed from the counter.  She gave me "that look."  Once again, I had tried to fit too much in the container. Time Management is a multi-million industry.  People spend more time learning how manage time than they spend practicing how to manage themselves. Time is a fixed container.  It is out of your control.  You can't slow … [Read more...]

Blessings and Sacrifice

  Running a successful business.  Writing a book.  Starring in the community play.  Earning first chair violin in the symphony (or third chair).  Playing on the varsity football team.  Getting the promotion.  Finishing a book that's difficult to understand.  Receiving a Masters of Fine Arts.   Having a lush lawn. Twins have taught me there is no blessing without sacrifice.  They are two sides of the same coin. What blessing are you yearning for?  What are you willing to … [Read more...]

Opinions are like … ?

Everyone thinks that they know the better way.  Everyone believes they're are right.  A thought hits their consciousness, it must be right.  It's a fact to the person who thought it.   Of course, anyone who believes something differently is wrong. The next time you think you're right, ask yourself a question - "What evidence* do I have to prove it?" It might be humbling to realize most of what we think is just an opinion.  Especially if the other person can offer evidence. Elevate your … [Read more...]

Who’s the idiot now?

When I was 21 I thought everyone was an idiot.   Not much has changed. I still murmur to myself regularly, "They're all idiots..." while I shake my head at what goes on in this world.   The difference now is that I know that I'm one, too. 2o years of mistakes will do that to you.  20 years of mistakes will also make you wiser.  I'd rather be a wiser idiot than whatever I was before.   Related articles Top 3 Reasons Your Product Description Sucks (inc.com) Why Every Company … [Read more...]

What Do You Have Time To Do? 4 Questions to Ask Yourself

  We don't seem to have the time to do a lot of things.  Things like exercise, cooking healthily, calling our parents, brothers, sisters and friends, reading great books or magazines, driving without distraction (as we text some ridiculously unimportant message). We do seem to have time to do a lot of other things, though.  Things like Facebook, Twitter, reality TV, e-mail, long showers, visiting newyorkjets.com, miamihurricanes.com, tmz.com or working long hours with no specific … [Read more...]

One question to get the most use from your stress

  Studies show that bad stress causes harmful reactions in us.  It literally kills us slowly.  A key distinction between good stress (Eustress) and bad stress (distress) is whether we see ourselves as capable of exerting ourselves on our situation to affect it. When we focus on what can't do, we create bad stress and get stuck.  When we focus on what we can do, we create new options through or around our challenges.  We look at what we can control.    We cultivate good stress. … [Read more...]

Two Simple Steps to Move Closer to your goals

  An object that's a rest tends to stay at rest.  An object in motion will continue along the same course unless another force redirects it. It's a law of physics.  It's also a law of life.  Change your words, change your mind I've been at rest for several months.  I've talked about how I need to exercise.  And I need to write.  I haven't done either.  I realized last night that I was speaking in 'Need to'.  I immediately changed my language.  I moved to 'want to'. We put the … [Read more...]