Wish You Were Here

I get lost in the act of wishing. I wish I played tennis more.  I wish I were more extroverted.   I wish I played guitar better.  I wish I did a better job of marketing this blog. I wish those jeans I got a couple of years ago weren't so tight. I wish I were more comfortable (and effective) at networking.  I wish that I wrote (and published) more often.  I wish I were taller.  I wish I called my mom more often.  I wish I didn't have a commute. I wish I had published a book  by now. I wish I … [Read more...]

Mind over matter

Shawshank Redemption was nearing the end. I watched Red travel on the bus going to Fort Hancock, Texas. It struck me.  No one on that bus was listening to a Walkman, iPod, reading something on their phone or tablet.  It was a long, quiet ride from Maine to Texas. A bit over 30 years ago, Sony invented the Walkman. It was a first.  You could take your music with you. And block out the rest of the world with stereo headphones. Jogging and walking no longer had to be a slow silent slog.  The … [Read more...]

Step away from the elephant

I found myself standing in front of a grey wall.  I felt like I encountered an insurmountable obstacle.  Then I reached out to to the wall. Odd, it's rough and warm.  I look around.  I step away.  I see an elephant. The only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.  First, you need to know you have elephant to eat.  Sometimes we get to close.  We lose perspective.  We get lost in the perspective.. Step away from the elephant.  Then pick your first bite. Related articles On … [Read more...]

Blessings and Sacrifice

  Running a successful business.  Writing a book.  Starring in the community play.  Earning first chair violin in the symphony (or third chair).  Playing on the varsity football team.  Getting the promotion.  Finishing a book that's difficult to understand.  Receiving a Masters of Fine Arts.   Having a lush lawn. Twins have taught me there is no blessing without sacrifice.  They are two sides of the same coin. What blessing are you yearning for?  What are you willing to … [Read more...]

Who’s the idiot now?

When I was 21 I thought everyone was an idiot.   Not much has changed. I still murmur to myself regularly, "They're all idiots..." while I shake my head at what goes on in this world.   The difference now is that I know that I'm one, too. 2o years of mistakes will do that to you.  20 years of mistakes will also make you wiser.  I'd rather be a wiser idiot than whatever I was before.   Related articles Top 3 Reasons Your Product Description Sucks (inc.com) Why Every Company … [Read more...]

Two Simple Steps to Move Closer to your goals

  An object that's a rest tends to stay at rest.  An object in motion will continue along the same course unless another force redirects it. It's a law of physics.  It's also a law of life.  Change your words, change your mind I've been at rest for several months.  I've talked about how I need to exercise.  And I need to write.  I haven't done either.  I realized last night that I was speaking in 'Need to'.  I immediately changed my language.  I moved to 'want to'. We put the … [Read more...]

How are you preparing for the parade?

We looked at each other.  The babies crying in the background.  "Should we respond?" We created a routine to help the babies learn to sleep.  Sometimes that meant letting them cry for a few minutes.  It was hard.  Very hard. On Christmas Eve, we woke up.  The babies slept through the night.  9 weeks old (5 weeks based on full term).  Mission accomplished! I'd mention we wanted the babies to sleep through the night as our Christmas present.  People would scoff at me.  They told me I … [Read more...]

All I want for Christmas is…

Jen's whispered, "C'mon.  It's time to feed the babies."   All I want for Christmas is for my babies to sleep through the night. I've told so many people that my Christmas present would be the twins sleeping through the night.  These were typical responses: "Keep dreaming...." "My babies are a year old. They still don't sleep through the night." "That's not going to happen." "Good luck with that..." Not encouraging words.  They're actually the complete opposite.  The people … [Read more...]

Are you choking on an elephant?

I want to change the world.  That's  a problem.  "Change the world" is one big elephant.  It doesn't give many good places to start.  In fact, it's haltingly paralyzing.  As a goal it is insurmountably overwhelming. Have you ever looked up to a role model and said to yourself, "I want to be like him (or her)."?   Maybe you want to be the next Seth Godin, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, John Lennon, Martin Luther King, Sarah Palin, etc.   There's just one problem.  You can't.  They already … [Read more...]

What do you NOT have to do?

I was buzzing around the house completing one task after another.  My goal?  Order.  The arrival of the twins was met by an intense need for order.  Some could call it OCD. I was working in double time.  And I am doing things I don't want to do.  I like order.  I don't like doing the things that create it.  So these are things I have to do.  I need the order to have my mind clear to produce.  I'd rather watch the Colbert Report.  Steve Colbert will take me further from what I need. I get … [Read more...]