What are you addicted to?

  "She's getting so big."  A tear welled up in my eye. My girls aren't little babies anymore.  They're turning into toddlers.  With wills and tempers.  They're starting to look like little people.   And I'm sad. I'm a mourner.  I look back and mourn what's passed.  I could look forward and embrace what's coming.  I'm learning to do that.  But undoing decades of looking back takes longer than I'd like. It's hard to create what I want in the world, in my life and in my family when … [Read more...]

Easy to please. Easier to displease.

  My wife, Jen, was exasperated with me.  I don't remember what the back and forth was about.  There are too many times to choose from. "You're so hard to please!" she said. "No, I'm not.  I'm easy to please ... I'm just easier to displease." This is not the best thing to think about myself.   I give power to factors out my control.  Then I feel a reduced sense of power and control in my life.  This leaves me displeased. There are a lot words for this.  I'll call it … [Read more...]

How are you making it easier?

I'm beating this horse this week. The girls stopped eating.  We found out their bottles flow rating was too low.  Babies won't work too hard to eat.  They'd rather not eat ... then drive their parent crazy as the scream because they're hungry. We bought them new nipples.  They make it much easier for the girls to eat.  They started eating more than before and 3 times faster. It's easy to get caught up in make the tool or the process 'perfect.'  If it makes people work too hard, they … [Read more...]

What why are you giving?

  I learned recently that babies won't work too hard to eat.  They'll stop eating if their nipple makes them work to get the milk.  We learned this because our girls stopped eating a few weeks ago.  We bought new nipples with higher flow.  They ate faster than ever. Babies don't know that food is worth something.  So they won't work too hard for it.  Show your team why it's worth doing what you're asking to do. Give them a big why.  Or they might just act like babies. … [Read more...]

What’s your nature?

  The girls stopped eating most of their bottles a few weeks ago.  It was like they were on strike.  We asked around and googled for insight.  We learned something. We were using the wrong nipples.  You can buy baby bottle nipples with different flow rates.  You give higher flow rated nipples as the babies grow. Babies would rather not eat than work too hard to eat.  They're not consciously choosing.  They don't have that capability.  It's just in their nature.  They'll under … [Read more...]

What will you give?

    Will you give yourself permission to be uncomfortable today? Will you give yourself permission to be more than who you were yesterday? Will you give yourself permission to dig a hole for you to get out of tomorrow? Will you give yourself permission to seek that spark of an idea? Will you give yourself permission put your ideas together? Will you give yourself permission to reveal your ideas to the world? Will you give yourself permission to ignore … [Read more...]

Are you getting caught in the idea trap?

  I remember stepping on the Lego piece with my bare foot.  I screamed, cursing.  A cubic, sharp pebble cutting into my foot.  It hurt! Yesterday, I talked about how building ideas is like playing with Legos.   "The ideas are the blocks.  Putting them together is the execution." If you're an "idea guy" (or gal), like me,  you have a bunch of blocks.  They're everywhere!  You're tripping on them, stepping on them, staring at them. Are you putting them together?  Are you addicted … [Read more...]

How do you win the battle of will?

I love feeding my girls.  They're 7 months old.  They don't know what they're doing.  It's a socio-science experiment.  What will they like?  What will they hate?  Will they clamp their mouth shut?  Will Ellie like one thing and Evie another? Jen and I treat every bite like it's fun and tasty.  "Mmmmmm", "Yummmyyyyy", "Yaaaaaaay".   We smile.  We pretend like we're chewing and swallowing. I learned quickly that it's not about them eating the food.  It's about enjoying the experience of … [Read more...]

Are you playing with Legos or with Jenga?

  Building ideas is like playing with Legos.  It's not like playing Jenga. Your ideas are the blocks.  Putting them together is the execution. The nice thing about Legos ... You can build one thing, take it apart and build something completely different.  You have the flexibility to innovate and pivot.  You can go back and then forward again. Put your ideas into action.  If it's not right, take them apart and put them together differently.  Building ideas is not about keeping … [Read more...]

Don’t melt away, snowflake

One is the loneliest number that there ever was.  Sometimes I get trapped in my head thinking of the impact I want to have on the world.  I crave a more meaningful and significant life.  Whenever I'm stuck in this place, I am alone.  I don't see myself connected to others. Nobody has ever accomplished anything in this world alone. Any change in the world you admire required someone to work with others (even if indirectly).  They made the invisible idea in their head real to others. A … [Read more...]