Could you use a cold shower?

The bookthrew down a challenge.  Imagine turning on the shower.  Only the cold water.  No hot at all.  Now, imagine you jump into the shower.  Did you cringe at the thought?  Good.  Now do it.  For 5 days in a row.  That was the challenge Julien Smith tossed my way. I threw the water on.  I waited.  And waited.  I stood there avoiding.   I sheepishly crept in.  I lasted 30 seconds.  I put the hot water on.  I fought the "the flinch" to get in the shower.   I didn't fight through it to … [Read more...]

How do you do better?

Robby said, "I used to have those reference documents taped all over my work space.  It helped me a lot."   I looked that the document I needed.  It was open in MS Word.  I looked at Robby and said, "Yeah, I really need to print this."  And then I sat there.  Without printing it. Anytime I say "I need to" do something I can be assured of one thing.  I'm not going to do it. I looked at Robby, catching what I just did.  I laughed about it.  I had everything I needed to meet my need. … [Read more...]

How amazing is your grace?

Familiarity breeds contempt. Spend more time with someone and you'll get jaded.  You'll  take things for granted, and get angry over smaller things.  Hot buttons will emerge.  They'll be easier to punch as time goes on. This is probably why marriage can be so hard. It's easier to forgive the waitress who screwed up your food order than it is the wife who forgot to put the cap back on the toothpaste ... again. Grace doesn't dwell well in a world of presumed outcomes. We force grace out of … [Read more...]

How nourishing is your life?

Ellie, the younger twin, was fighting the bottle.  She'd take the nipple.  Chew and suck.  Then spit out milk and pout.  It was frustrating. Jen took her.  Ten minutes later the bottle was emptied.  I asked Jen what she did to make Ellie eat.  She told me.  I barely believed her.  She did it again the next time.  It worked.  And it still does. Jen encouraged Ellie.  She'd tell her in a sweet voice how good she was being and what a good little eater she was.  Ellie ate.  No … [Read more...]

What road are you on?

"You have to see they have good will.", Jen said to me.  I said, "Hitler had good will!"   In most circumstances, people are acting with good intentions. I have become more controlling since our babies arrived.  It's annoying.  Jen demonstrates great restraint and patience with me as I tell her how to do something.  I'm being more controlling because my intention is to produce the best possible outcome. Some parents beat their kids with good intentions, "I'm only doing this so you'll … [Read more...]

Follow through

Want to see a quarterback throw a bad pass?  Mess with his follow through.  How about a golfer screw up a shot?  Mess with her follow through.  A baller miss a jumper?  Mess with their follow through. I wrote the post about striking the iron when's its hot a half hour ago.  Then I proceeded to browse the web looking at Galaxy Nexus reviews.  The iron I wanted to strike was going to the gym.   I apologize for being a hypocrite. Striking the iron when it's hot is about following through on … [Read more...]

When do you strike?

The thought struck me.  It came out of nowhere.  "This guy had a huge impact on my life, I should write him a note."  I had a decision to make at that point ... Click "Compose New" and shoot the thought and sentiment his way.  Find some stationary and write it out then and there.  Or put it on a to do list. I clicked "Compose New"  I wrote a two line email.  I told him that I appreciated his encouragement, support and inspiration.  He really played a key role in a wide range of my life. … [Read more...]

Are you choking on an elephant?

I want to change the world.  That's  a problem.  "Change the world" is one big elephant.  It doesn't give many good places to start.  In fact, it's haltingly paralyzing.  As a goal it is insurmountably overwhelming. Have you ever looked up to a role model and said to yourself, "I want to be like him (or her)."?   Maybe you want to be the next Seth Godin, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, John Lennon, Martin Luther King, Sarah Palin, etc.   There's just one problem.  You can't.  They already … [Read more...]

What kind of dog are you?

I was cooking yesterday.  The dogs were bouncing around me in the kitchen.  They're just looking to snag the tiniest scrap that falls to them.  It was frustrating.  We've had so many visitors and the twins shift so much attention away from them.  They are behaving disobediently.  They're more selfish.  They're just looking for a little something for themselves.  Sadly for them, the more they try the less they get. I got a glimpse into how God might feel about us.  I'm talking the … [Read more...]

I got away with murder.

I got away with murder when I was younger. I didn't have set chores to get an allowance.  I didn't have to study to do well in school.  I didn't do my homework on time.  And often times didn't do it all.  I turned assignments in late.  I cut school.  I was late regularly.  I still graduated in the top 10 percent of my class. I wish I could say I wrote my own rules.  That would be a lie.  It would imply structure that didn't exist.  I just didn't follow the existing rules. I'm 40 now. … [Read more...]