How are you preparing for the parade?

We looked at each other.  The babies crying in the background.  "Should we respond?" We created a routine to help the babies learn to sleep.  Sometimes that meant letting them cry for a few minutes.  It was hard.  Very hard. On Christmas Eve, we woke up.  The babies slept through the night.  9 weeks old (5 weeks based on full term).  Mission accomplished! I'd mention we wanted the babies to sleep through the night as our Christmas present.  People would scoff at me.  They told me I … [Read more...]

What road are you on?

"You have to see they have good will.", Jen said to me.  I said, "Hitler had good will!"   In most circumstances, people are acting with good intentions. I have become more controlling since our babies arrived.  It's annoying.  Jen demonstrates great restraint and patience with me as I tell her how to do something.  I'm being more controlling because my intention is to produce the best possible outcome. Some parents beat their kids with good intentions, "I'm only doing this so you'll … [Read more...]

‘Twas the Day Before Christmas

This one is different.  Times have changed, so have we. There's no tree.  No garland.  No decoration.  No lights.  Instead we have two babies who have overflowed our lives. We have joy.  We have frustration.  We have laughter.  We have tears.  Times we want to run away to Canada.  And times we're drawn nearer. We've been challenged.  We've been tested.  Plenty of times we have failed.  Time and again, love, faith and hope prevails. It's overwhelming.  It's daunting.  It's made me … [Read more...]

When do you strike?

The thought struck me.  It came out of nowhere.  "This guy had a huge impact on my life, I should write him a note."  I had a decision to make at that point ... Click "Compose New" and shoot the thought and sentiment his way.  Find some stationary and write it out then and there.  Or put it on a to do list. I clicked "Compose New"  I wrote a two line email.  I told him that I appreciated his encouragement, support and inspiration.  He really played a key role in a wide range of my life. … [Read more...]

What kind of dog are you?

I was cooking yesterday.  The dogs were bouncing around me in the kitchen.  They're just looking to snag the tiniest scrap that falls to them.  It was frustrating.  We've had so many visitors and the twins shift so much attention away from them.  They are behaving disobediently.  They're more selfish.  They're just looking for a little something for themselves.  Sadly for them, the more they try the less they get. I got a glimpse into how God might feel about us.  I'm talking the … [Read more...]

Are you tipping enough?

Jen and I met our twins two months ago.  Our priorities were redefined.  Things like showering, blow drying of hair, eating food while hot fell to the bottom of the list.  Feeding babies, remembering to eat at all, finding 2-3 hours to sleep shot to the top of the list. The babies are kicking our asses.  Feeding two newborns at the same time is one of the most exhausting things I've done in my life.  I go from energetic and enthusiastic to exhausted and exasperated in a matter of … [Read more...]

Thank, God. I am home.

I walked in the door.  I said, "I'm home, Cheech (Chi-chi's one of our dogs)."    A rush of emotion swept through me.  "Thank God, I'm home." I've struggled with my house being my home since I moved here.  It was Jen's house before we met.  There's a lot of history in the house.  There's a lot of ego involve in my fighting making this house my home.  I create meaning that doesn't have to be there that keeps me away. A friend was telling me about the Samurai.  They are not allowed to … [Read more...]

Setting the mood

Elli awoke screaming.  Again.  It was clear she did not know that it was night time.  We decided to set the mood. The lights dimmed throughout the house the next day at 7pm.  TV off.  Laptops closed.  Phones away.  Faded lights and lullabies.  Babies and bottles.  The girls fed.  We laid them down.  They slept.  They got it.   We  crafted the peaceful, nocturnal environment.  They went with the mood. So did we.  Jen and I had time to connect.  The house was more peaceful. I walked … [Read more...]

Are you in a compromised position?

The offer came it.  It was low. They asked for thousands in concessions on top of the low offer. I sent a counter. They held their ground. A few days later, they weakened and offered a counter. They didn't offer enough.  It wouldn't have been a compromise. I would have been compromised. A week or so later another offer came in. It was low. They asked for thousands in concessions. I sent a counter. They responded promptly. They offered more than what I asked in my counter. They asked for … [Read more...]

What bubble will burst next?

Bubble's burst. We've seen the real estate bubble, the internet bubble, the energy bubble, and whatever other bubbles. They over inflated until, under the the value they promised was very different than the actual value provided.  Reality reared it's ugly head.  The bubbles burst under the pressure that came from reality weighing in. It's easy and cheap to produce credibility in social media world.  Testimonials, reviews, followers ... all can be bought.   Go on Fiverr.com. You'll find … [Read more...]