Don’t melt away, snowflake

One is the loneliest number that there ever was.  Sometimes I get trapped in my head thinking of the impact I want to have on the world.  I crave a more meaningful and significant life.  Whenever I'm stuck in this place, I am alone.  I don't see myself connected to others. Nobody has ever accomplished anything in this world alone. Any change in the world you admire required someone to work with others (even if indirectly).  They made the invisible idea in their head real to others. A … [Read more...]

Wish You Were Here

I get lost in the act of wishing. I wish I played tennis more.  I wish I were more extroverted.   I wish I played guitar better.  I wish I did a better job of marketing this blog. I wish those jeans I got a couple of years ago weren't so tight. I wish I were more comfortable (and effective) at networking.  I wish that I wrote (and published) more often.  I wish I were taller.  I wish I called my mom more often.  I wish I didn't have a commute. I wish I had published a book  by now. I wish I … [Read more...]

The biggest secret to time management

  A few months ago, I tried to fit left over soup in a container.  Jen told me that it wouldn't fit.  I insisted it would. I cleaned up soup that overflowed from the counter.  She gave me "that look."  Once again, I had tried to fit too much in the container. Time Management is a multi-million industry.  People spend more time learning how manage time than they spend practicing how to manage themselves. Time is a fixed container.  It is out of your control.  You can't slow … [Read more...]

Blessings and Sacrifice

  Running a successful business.  Writing a book.  Starring in the community play.  Earning first chair violin in the symphony (or third chair).  Playing on the varsity football team.  Getting the promotion.  Finishing a book that's difficult to understand.  Receiving a Masters of Fine Arts.   Having a lush lawn. Twins have taught me there is no blessing without sacrifice.  They are two sides of the same coin. What blessing are you yearning for?  What are you willing to … [Read more...]

Two Simple Steps to Move Closer to your goals

  An object that's a rest tends to stay at rest.  An object in motion will continue along the same course unless another force redirects it. It's a law of physics.  It's also a law of life.  Change your words, change your mind I've been at rest for several months.  I've talked about how I need to exercise.  And I need to write.  I haven't done either.  I realized last night that I was speaking in 'Need to'.  I immediately changed my language.  I moved to 'want to'. We put the … [Read more...]

Could you use a cold shower?

The bookthrew down a challenge.  Imagine turning on the shower.  Only the cold water.  No hot at all.  Now, imagine you jump into the shower.  Did you cringe at the thought?  Good.  Now do it.  For 5 days in a row.  That was the challenge Julien Smith tossed my way. I threw the water on.  I waited.  And waited.  I stood there avoiding.   I sheepishly crept in.  I lasted 30 seconds.  I put the hot water on.  I fought the "the flinch" to get in the shower.   I didn't fight through it to … [Read more...]

How do you do better?

Robby said, "I used to have those reference documents taped all over my work space.  It helped me a lot."   I looked that the document I needed.  It was open in MS Word.  I looked at Robby and said, "Yeah, I really need to print this."  And then I sat there.  Without printing it. Anytime I say "I need to" do something I can be assured of one thing.  I'm not going to do it. I looked at Robby, catching what I just did.  I laughed about it.  I had everything I needed to meet my need. … [Read more...]

When do you strike?

The thought struck me.  It came out of nowhere.  "This guy had a huge impact on my life, I should write him a note."  I had a decision to make at that point ... Click "Compose New" and shoot the thought and sentiment his way.  Find some stationary and write it out then and there.  Or put it on a to do list. I clicked "Compose New"  I wrote a two line email.  I told him that I appreciated his encouragement, support and inspiration.  He really played a key role in a wide range of my life. … [Read more...]

I got away with murder.

I got away with murder when I was younger. I didn't have set chores to get an allowance.  I didn't have to study to do well in school.  I didn't do my homework on time.  And often times didn't do it all.  I turned assignments in late.  I cut school.  I was late regularly.  I still graduated in the top 10 percent of my class. I wish I could say I wrote my own rules.  That would be a lie.  It would imply structure that didn't exist.  I just didn't follow the existing rules. I'm 40 now. … [Read more...]

What do you NOT have to do?

I was buzzing around the house completing one task after another.  My goal?  Order.  The arrival of the twins was met by an intense need for order.  Some could call it OCD. I was working in double time.  And I am doing things I don't want to do.  I like order.  I don't like doing the things that create it.  So these are things I have to do.  I need the order to have my mind clear to produce.  I'd rather watch the Colbert Report.  Steve Colbert will take me further from what I need. I get … [Read more...]