Wish You Were Here

I get lost in the act of wishing. I wish I played tennis more.  I wish I were more extroverted.   I wish I played guitar better.  I wish I did a better job of marketing this blog. I wish those jeans I got a couple of years ago weren't so tight. I wish I were more comfortable (and effective) at networking.  I wish that I wrote (and published) more often.  I wish I were taller.  I wish I called my mom more often.  I wish I didn't have a commute. I wish I had published a book  by now. I wish I … [Read more...]

Mind over matter

Shawshank Redemption was nearing the end. I watched Red travel on the bus going to Fort Hancock, Texas. It struck me.  No one on that bus was listening to a Walkman, iPod, reading something on their phone or tablet.  It was a long, quiet ride from Maine to Texas. A bit over 30 years ago, Sony invented the Walkman. It was a first.  You could take your music with you. And block out the rest of the world with stereo headphones. Jogging and walking no longer had to be a slow silent slog.  The … [Read more...]

The biggest secret to time management

  A few months ago, I tried to fit left over soup in a container.  Jen told me that it wouldn't fit.  I insisted it would. I cleaned up soup that overflowed from the counter.  She gave me "that look."  Once again, I had tried to fit too much in the container. Time Management is a multi-million industry.  People spend more time learning how manage time than they spend practicing how to manage themselves. Time is a fixed container.  It is out of your control.  You can't slow … [Read more...]

One question to get the most use from your stress

  Studies show that bad stress causes harmful reactions in us.  It literally kills us slowly.  A key distinction between good stress (Eustress) and bad stress (distress) is whether we see ourselves as capable of exerting ourselves on our situation to affect it. When we focus on what can't do, we create bad stress and get stuck.  When we focus on what we can do, we create new options through or around our challenges.  We look at what we can control.    We cultivate good stress. … [Read more...]

Are you going broke?

I was talking with friend last night.  She talked about how it's hard to keep priorities this time of year (Christmas time).   She's busy going to 47 Christmas parties, buying gifts, spending time with friends, and somewhere in there ... she works.   We talked about weight gain, staying on budget, and sticking to goals.  They're all related. Have you gained 5, 10, 15 lbs lately?  Check your finances.  When your weight goes up, you're probably spending more money.  Check your work, too.  If … [Read more...]

What’s your enemy?

  Who's ever found themselves working on something only to get to where you say, "Eh, that's good enough!"? When is good enough, good enough? If good is the enemy of great, when is good enough great? When does the pursuit of great become perfectionism that keeps us from delivering? When does Pareto and his insight about peas bring us to our knees as we pursue the good enough of 80% to the great of 90-100% Good may be the enemy of great. But great is the enemy of possible. I read … [Read more...]