Are you in the Rabbit Hole?

  Mobile devices.  Text messages.  Email.  Unintentional side conversations.  Web research that turns into an Alice in Wonderland rabbit hole.  It's no wonder it's easy to get lost doing nothing (results) while doing something (activity). It's easier than ever to live walking in circles day after day.  We call each step progress.  Yet the steps lead to nowhere. Then we mount the excuses for why we're not getting anywhere.  Too busy.  Too much to do.  Too tired.  Not enough time. … [Read more...]

Do you want something?

  Yesterday I wrote about my mishaps and poor performance at my church's first open mic night.  The stakes were low.  The mistakes were high.  My disappointment matched the mistakes. I was unprepared.  I was uneasy.  My friend asked me to do this open mic because they weren't sure they'd have enough performers.  I got there.  I saw no shortage of performers.  I could have backed out.  I didn't.  I committed to my friend that I'd get up there.  I also committed to myself.  If we won't … [Read more...]

Do you want to be “One and done”?

I plugged the cable in.  No sound.  Nothing.  Then I tried another cable.  Again.  Nothing. Thirty people were sitting around.  Waiting.  I took someone else's guitar.  Plugged it in.  It worked. I threw the strap around my neck.  And stepped up to the microphone.  3 and half minutes flew by in the blink of an eternity. I got through the song.  Barely.  I was planning on singing two.  I changed my mind.  I strummed the last chord.  Looked at the MC.  And said, "That's good enough. … [Read more...]

Out of the eyes of babes

  Jen walked out of the girl's room.  Ellie in her arms.  She just woke up.  Her eyes swollen with sleep.  I sat on the couch, typing away. Ellie looked at me for a glance.  Then she stared at the laptop.  It's a reflex.  If we're looking at our phones, the girls look at our phones.  TVs on, same thing. We're drawn to the glow of technology.  Hypnotized.  Flashing lights.  Distraction.  Detachment.  It's our innate state. We think we're in control.  We think we're choosing where … [Read more...]

What are you avoiding?

I was reading the article.  I wanted to stop.  I was afraid.  What if they reveal a theory I've been working on but haven't released to the world yet.   I was afraid of being disappointed.  In myself, for not getting the idea out soon enough.  Avoiding the article wouldn't help though. If my idea was the same, I'd know someone else thought of it.  I can shift directions with the idea.  I can build on to what's already there.  That's all the world of knowledge is any way.  At some point … [Read more...]

Are you succeeding?

  Roombas are robotic vacuum cleaners.  The roll around the floor vacuuming your room while you're away.  They are successful because they keep moving after they encounter an obstacle.  They If they didn't do this, they'd just suck.  They are successful because they succeed. Most ladders have many rungs.  We succeed from rung to rung to make to the top of the ladder.   The word "Succeed" is derived from the latin,  succedere: to go up or follow after. I usually think about … [Read more...]

How are you making it easier?

I'm beating this horse this week. The girls stopped eating.  We found out their bottles flow rating was too low.  Babies won't work too hard to eat.  They'd rather not eat ... then drive their parent crazy as the scream because they're hungry. We bought them new nipples.  They make it much easier for the girls to eat.  They started eating more than before and 3 times faster. It's easy to get caught up in make the tool or the process 'perfect.'  If it makes people work too hard, they … [Read more...]

What will you give?

    Will you give yourself permission to be uncomfortable today? Will you give yourself permission to be more than who you were yesterday? Will you give yourself permission to dig a hole for you to get out of tomorrow? Will you give yourself permission to seek that spark of an idea? Will you give yourself permission put your ideas together? Will you give yourself permission to reveal your ideas to the world? Will you give yourself permission to ignore … [Read more...]

What if you asked differently?

  What if I fail? One the most common reason we don't take action is the fear of "what if". What if they say no What if it doesnt go well What if they don't like me What if they ask questions and I don't know the answer What if I look dumb Here are some more "what ifs" to ask: What if you look back in 10 years and your in the same place you're in now What if you become irrelevant What if you have nobody to blame but yourself By avoiding the first set of what … [Read more...]

The under-used, not so secret way to a life of riches

  I was on my way out the door this morning.  Jen grabbed me.  She took me by my shoulders.  She put me square in front of her.  She looked me dead in the eye.  And started speaking. "Thank you for getting Ellie up this morning and starting to feed her.""Thank you for taking care of Evie.""Thank you for making the bottles.""Thank you for making lunches.""Thank you for putting toothpaste on my toothbrush.""Thank you for filling my perfume bottle."My eyes moistened.  My breathing … [Read more...]