Apples & Oranges

  We were talking about what a great team we would be.  I'd be the idea person.  She'd be the doer ... making the ideas happen.  She is the doer.  I need to do a lot more to make my ideas compared to how I thought it'd be.  At least more than just speak them. The twins never end.  They are well behaved.  They sleep well.  They eat well.  They don't cry for no reason (Thank, God). Yet it seems that at least one needs some attention and any point and time.  It seems there's never a … [Read more...]

The Faithful Sacrifice

  Faith is beyond belief.  It is a trust that engenders action.  It is seen when we leap, trusting the net will appear.  Don't trust that a net will appear?  You'll just stand on the ledge.  Waiting. Many have ideas they believe in.  How many have faith in those ideas?  Those who believe talk about how they know the idea is great.  Those with faith do something to make it real. Entrepreneurs are towers of faith.  They fight to make their idea become real in the world.  They believe … [Read more...]

The under-used, not so secret way to a life of riches

  I was on my way out the door this morning.  Jen grabbed me.  She took me by my shoulders.  She put me square in front of her.  She looked me dead in the eye.  And started speaking. "Thank you for getting Ellie up this morning and starting to feed her.""Thank you for taking care of Evie.""Thank you for making the bottles.""Thank you for making lunches.""Thank you for putting toothpaste on my toothbrush.""Thank you for filling my perfume bottle."My eyes moistened.  My breathing … [Read more...]

Wish You Were Here

I get lost in the act of wishing. I wish I played tennis more.  I wish I were more extroverted.   I wish I played guitar better.  I wish I did a better job of marketing this blog. I wish those jeans I got a couple of years ago weren't so tight. I wish I were more comfortable (and effective) at networking.  I wish that I wrote (and published) more often.  I wish I were taller.  I wish I called my mom more often.  I wish I didn't have a commute. I wish I had published a book  by now. I wish I … [Read more...]

Mind over matter

Shawshank Redemption was nearing the end. I watched Red travel on the bus going to Fort Hancock, Texas. It struck me.  No one on that bus was listening to a Walkman, iPod, reading something on their phone or tablet.  It was a long, quiet ride from Maine to Texas. A bit over 30 years ago, Sony invented the Walkman. It was a first.  You could take your music with you. And block out the rest of the world with stereo headphones. Jogging and walking no longer had to be a slow silent slog.  The … [Read more...]

Step away from the elephant

I found myself standing in front of a grey wall.  I felt like I encountered an insurmountable obstacle.  Then I reached out to to the wall. Odd, it's rough and warm.  I look around.  I step away.  I see an elephant. The only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.  First, you need to know you have elephant to eat.  Sometimes we get to close.  We lose perspective.  We get lost in the perspective.. Step away from the elephant.  Then pick your first bite. Related articles On … [Read more...]

Shine on, you crazy diamond

Most people want to shine like a diamond.  We want to be highly valued.  We want to be unique.  We want to be admired.  We want to be seen as beautiful. Diamonds are formed at the Earth's mantle.  90 miles from the Earth's surface.  Carbon is transformed to diamonds.  Under great pressure, at temperatures around 2000 degrees,  molecular structure is changed. Volcanic eruptions hurl diamonds to the surface.  The diamonds are mined (found), cut and polished.  A diamond goes through a lot … [Read more...]

The biggest secret to time management

  A few months ago, I tried to fit left over soup in a container.  Jen told me that it wouldn't fit.  I insisted it would. I cleaned up soup that overflowed from the counter.  She gave me "that look."  Once again, I had tried to fit too much in the container. Time Management is a multi-million industry.  People spend more time learning how manage time than they spend practicing how to manage themselves. Time is a fixed container.  It is out of your control.  You can't slow … [Read more...]

Blessings and Sacrifice

  Running a successful business.  Writing a book.  Starring in the community play.  Earning first chair violin in the symphony (or third chair).  Playing on the varsity football team.  Getting the promotion.  Finishing a book that's difficult to understand.  Receiving a Masters of Fine Arts.   Having a lush lawn. Twins have taught me there is no blessing without sacrifice.  They are two sides of the same coin. What blessing are you yearning for?  What are you willing to … [Read more...]

Opinions are like … ?

Everyone thinks that they know the better way.  Everyone believes they're are right.  A thought hits their consciousness, it must be right.  It's a fact to the person who thought it.   Of course, anyone who believes something differently is wrong. The next time you think you're right, ask yourself a question - "What evidence* do I have to prove it?" It might be humbling to realize most of what we think is just an opinion.  Especially if the other person can offer evidence. Elevate your … [Read more...]