How are you preparing for the parade?

We looked at each other.  The babies crying in the background.  "Should we respond?" We created a routine to help the babies learn to sleep.  Sometimes that meant letting them cry for a few minutes.  It was hard.  Very hard. On Christmas Eve, we woke up.  The babies slept through the night.  9 weeks old (5 weeks based on full term).  Mission accomplished! I'd mention we wanted the babies to sleep through the night as our Christmas present.  People would scoff at me.  They told me I … [Read more...]

What road are you on?

"You have to see they have good will.", Jen said to me.  I said, "Hitler had good will!"   In most circumstances, people are acting with good intentions. I have become more controlling since our babies arrived.  It's annoying.  Jen demonstrates great restraint and patience with me as I tell her how to do something.  I'm being more controlling because my intention is to produce the best possible outcome. Some parents beat their kids with good intentions, "I'm only doing this so you'll … [Read more...]

All I want for Christmas is…

Jen's whispered, "C'mon.  It's time to feed the babies."   All I want for Christmas is for my babies to sleep through the night. I've told so many people that my Christmas present would be the twins sleeping through the night.  These were typical responses: "Keep dreaming...." "My babies are a year old. They still don't sleep through the night." "That's not going to happen." "Good luck with that..." Not encouraging words.  They're actually the complete opposite.  The people … [Read more...]

‘Twas the Day Before Christmas

This one is different.  Times have changed, so have we. There's no tree.  No garland.  No decoration.  No lights.  Instead we have two babies who have overflowed our lives. We have joy.  We have frustration.  We have laughter.  We have tears.  Times we want to run away to Canada.  And times we're drawn nearer. We've been challenged.  We've been tested.  Plenty of times we have failed.  Time and again, love, faith and hope prevails. It's overwhelming.  It's daunting.  It's made me … [Read more...]

Follow through

Want to see a quarterback throw a bad pass?  Mess with his follow through.  How about a golfer screw up a shot?  Mess with her follow through.  A baller miss a jumper?  Mess with their follow through. I wrote the post about striking the iron when's its hot a half hour ago.  Then I proceeded to browse the web looking at Galaxy Nexus reviews.  The iron I wanted to strike was going to the gym.   I apologize for being a hypocrite. Striking the iron when it's hot is about following through on … [Read more...]

When do you strike?

The thought struck me.  It came out of nowhere.  "This guy had a huge impact on my life, I should write him a note."  I had a decision to make at that point ... Click "Compose New" and shoot the thought and sentiment his way.  Find some stationary and write it out then and there.  Or put it on a to do list. I clicked "Compose New"  I wrote a two line email.  I told him that I appreciated his encouragement, support and inspiration.  He really played a key role in a wide range of my life. … [Read more...]

Are you choking on an elephant?

I want to change the world.  That's  a problem.  "Change the world" is one big elephant.  It doesn't give many good places to start.  In fact, it's haltingly paralyzing.  As a goal it is insurmountably overwhelming. Have you ever looked up to a role model and said to yourself, "I want to be like him (or her)."?   Maybe you want to be the next Seth Godin, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, John Lennon, Martin Luther King, Sarah Palin, etc.   There's just one problem.  You can't.  They already … [Read more...]

What kind of dog are you?

I was cooking yesterday.  The dogs were bouncing around me in the kitchen.  They're just looking to snag the tiniest scrap that falls to them.  It was frustrating.  We've had so many visitors and the twins shift so much attention away from them.  They are behaving disobediently.  They're more selfish.  They're just looking for a little something for themselves.  Sadly for them, the more they try the less they get. I got a glimpse into how God might feel about us.  I'm talking the … [Read more...]

I got away with murder.

I got away with murder when I was younger. I didn't have set chores to get an allowance.  I didn't have to study to do well in school.  I didn't do my homework on time.  And often times didn't do it all.  I turned assignments in late.  I cut school.  I was late regularly.  I still graduated in the top 10 percent of my class. I wish I could say I wrote my own rules.  That would be a lie.  It would imply structure that didn't exist.  I just didn't follow the existing rules. I'm 40 now. … [Read more...]

What do you NOT have to do?

I was buzzing around the house completing one task after another.  My goal?  Order.  The arrival of the twins was met by an intense need for order.  Some could call it OCD. I was working in double time.  And I am doing things I don't want to do.  I like order.  I don't like doing the things that create it.  So these are things I have to do.  I need the order to have my mind clear to produce.  I'd rather watch the Colbert Report.  Steve Colbert will take me further from what I need. I get … [Read more...]