Apples & Oranges

  We were talking about what a great team we would be.  I'd be the idea person.  She'd be the doer ... making the ideas happen.  She is the doer.  I need to do a lot more to make my ideas compared to how I thought it'd be.  At least more than just speak them. The twins never end.  They are well behaved.  They sleep well.  They eat well.  They don't cry for no reason (Thank, God). Yet it seems that at least one needs some attention and any point and time.  It seems there's never a … [Read more...]

The Faithful Sacrifice

  Faith is beyond belief.  It is a trust that engenders action.  It is seen when we leap, trusting the net will appear.  Don't trust that a net will appear?  You'll just stand on the ledge.  Waiting. Many have ideas they believe in.  How many have faith in those ideas?  Those who believe talk about how they know the idea is great.  Those with faith do something to make it real. Entrepreneurs are towers of faith.  They fight to make their idea become real in the world.  They believe … [Read more...]

Shine on, you crazy diamond

Most people want to shine like a diamond.  We want to be highly valued.  We want to be unique.  We want to be admired.  We want to be seen as beautiful. Diamonds are formed at the Earth's mantle.  90 miles from the Earth's surface.  Carbon is transformed to diamonds.  Under great pressure, at temperatures around 2000 degrees,  molecular structure is changed. Volcanic eruptions hurl diamonds to the surface.  The diamonds are mined (found), cut and polished.  A diamond goes through a lot … [Read more...]

Blessings and Sacrifice

  Running a successful business.  Writing a book.  Starring in the community play.  Earning first chair violin in the symphony (or third chair).  Playing on the varsity football team.  Getting the promotion.  Finishing a book that's difficult to understand.  Receiving a Masters of Fine Arts.   Having a lush lawn. Twins have taught me there is no blessing without sacrifice.  They are two sides of the same coin. What blessing are you yearning for?  What are you willing to … [Read more...]

What Do You Have Time To Do? 4 Questions to Ask Yourself

  We don't seem to have the time to do a lot of things.  Things like exercise, cooking healthily, calling our parents, brothers, sisters and friends, reading great books or magazines, driving without distraction (as we text some ridiculously unimportant message). We do seem to have time to do a lot of other things, though.  Things like Facebook, Twitter, reality TV, e-mail, long showers, visiting newyorkjets.com, miamihurricanes.com, tmz.com or working long hours with no specific … [Read more...]

One question to get the most use from your stress

  Studies show that bad stress causes harmful reactions in us.  It literally kills us slowly.  A key distinction between good stress (Eustress) and bad stress (distress) is whether we see ourselves as capable of exerting ourselves on our situation to affect it. When we focus on what can't do, we create bad stress and get stuck.  When we focus on what we can do, we create new options through or around our challenges.  We look at what we can control.    We cultivate good stress. … [Read more...]

Two Simple Steps to Move Closer to your goals

  An object that's a rest tends to stay at rest.  An object in motion will continue along the same course unless another force redirects it. It's a law of physics.  It's also a law of life.  Change your words, change your mind I've been at rest for several months.  I've talked about how I need to exercise.  And I need to write.  I haven't done either.  I realized last night that I was speaking in 'Need to'.  I immediately changed my language.  I moved to 'want to'. We put the … [Read more...]

Could you use a cold shower?

The bookthrew down a challenge.  Imagine turning on the shower.  Only the cold water.  No hot at all.  Now, imagine you jump into the shower.  Did you cringe at the thought?  Good.  Now do it.  For 5 days in a row.  That was the challenge Julien Smith tossed my way. I threw the water on.  I waited.  And waited.  I stood there avoiding.   I sheepishly crept in.  I lasted 30 seconds.  I put the hot water on.  I fought the "the flinch" to get in the shower.   I didn't fight through it to … [Read more...]

How do you do better?

Robby said, "I used to have those reference documents taped all over my work space.  It helped me a lot."   I looked that the document I needed.  It was open in MS Word.  I looked at Robby and said, "Yeah, I really need to print this."  And then I sat there.  Without printing it. Anytime I say "I need to" do something I can be assured of one thing.  I'm not going to do it. I looked at Robby, catching what I just did.  I laughed about it.  I had everything I needed to meet my need. … [Read more...]

All I want for Christmas is…

Jen's whispered, "C'mon.  It's time to feed the babies."   All I want for Christmas is for my babies to sleep through the night. I've told so many people that my Christmas present would be the twins sleeping through the night.  These were typical responses: "Keep dreaming...." "My babies are a year old. They still don't sleep through the night." "That's not going to happen." "Good luck with that..." Not encouraging words.  They're actually the complete opposite.  The people … [Read more...]