How do you know if it’s too late?

To ... Take more risks.   Begin to exercise.  Eat healthier.  Spend a night together with your family.  Have a beer with a friend.  Ask her out.  Say I'm sorry.   Say I love you.  Buy her flowers.  Cook him a steak.  Buy him flowers.  Cook her a steak.  Manage your boss.  Manage your boss's boss.  Write a thank you note.  Quit your job.  Start a business.  Say hello to strangers.  Throw clay to make a lopsided bowl.  Sing karaoke.  Eat something you don't recognize.  Skydive.  Start a blog. … [Read more...]

Want This Year to Be Easier? Read This.

  We scurried out of the house.  We just scored an hour with Jen's parents watching the girls.  A huge sigh of relief for both of us. It was in the 30s outside.  I said, "Let's walk."  Jen said, "It's too cold.  I'll need to get a hat and gloves if we walk."  I shrugged it off.  We hopped in the car and started driving.   I got to the light.  I realized how silly the objection of getting a hat and gloves was.  Walking 20 feet to get hat and gloves wouldn't have been a … [Read more...]

Messy love

  I like order in my home.  Clutter drives me crazy.  Especially other people's clutter. I'm not great at maintaining a clutter free world.  But I do my best.  Well, that's wrong.  If what I do is my best.  My best sucks.  Let's say I make an effort. I am great at being a hypocrite though.  When the little order that exists in my home is disrupted, my boxers get bunched. Last week, I walked out of the bedroom.  Went past the sleeping girls.  Walked past the guest room.  Then to … [Read more...]

Is this the most powerful wealth multiplier?

  It's been a long time since I let my fingers feel the keyboard.  Not including emails, status reports and other organizational pink slime ... my fingers haven't roamed freely in a while. The longer my fingers went without furling words into the world, the more reasons I came with for why they could not do so.  Standard stuff ... not enough time, no space for peaceful thought, not the right time, etc. All the excuses were bullshit.  They always are. Don't believe me - let's … [Read more...]

Are You a Time-aholic?

  Hi.  My name is Eric.  And I'm a time-aholic. I have a time problem.  I abuse time.  Afterwards, I stumble through a time hangover, blacked out wondering what I did for the last few hours. It's easy to let time slip away when you haven't identified how you want to invest it.  It's hard to know how you want to invest it if you don't have investment goals. Our investment goals define how we invest our money.  If we're retiring soon, we might work to preserve what we have with a … [Read more...]

What are you thinking!?

  The world changed. Work is different. Companies are different. The economy is different.Knowledge is different. Buying is different.Childhood is different. Learning is different. Family is different. Friendship is different. Liking is different. A lot is different. Are you still thinking the same? Related articles The Power of Negative Thinking Why Data Will Never Replace Thinking How to Make Huge Decisions … [Read more...]

4 Reasons To Kiss When You’re Angry

  Jen told me about a friend who hadn't kissed her husband in 4 days.  They were angry with each other.  That seemed odd to me.  It seemed like they were dooming themselves to fail. It's Easy to Stay Angry.  It's Hard to Move Forward. It's easy to get angry with someone.  It's easy to embrace our anger.  And it's easy to become justified and obsess about how we're right and they're wrong.  It's hard to get past it if being angry is what you focus on. There are so many people and … [Read more...]

Are you in the Rabbit Hole?

  Mobile devices.  Text messages.  Email.  Unintentional side conversations.  Web research that turns into an Alice in Wonderland rabbit hole.  It's no wonder it's easy to get lost doing nothing (results) while doing something (activity). It's easier than ever to live walking in circles day after day.  We call each step progress.  Yet the steps lead to nowhere. Then we mount the excuses for why we're not getting anywhere.  Too busy.  Too much to do.  Too tired.  Not enough time. … [Read more...]

Do you want something?

  Yesterday I wrote about my mishaps and poor performance at my church's first open mic night.  The stakes were low.  The mistakes were high.  My disappointment matched the mistakes. I was unprepared.  I was uneasy.  My friend asked me to do this open mic because they weren't sure they'd have enough performers.  I got there.  I saw no shortage of performers.  I could have backed out.  I didn't.  I committed to my friend that I'd get up there.  I also committed to myself.  If we won't … [Read more...]

Do you want to be “One and done”?

I plugged the cable in.  No sound.  Nothing.  Then I tried another cable.  Again.  Nothing. Thirty people were sitting around.  Waiting.  I took someone else's guitar.  Plugged it in.  It worked. I threw the strap around my neck.  And stepped up to the microphone.  3 and half minutes flew by in the blink of an eternity. I got through the song.  Barely.  I was planning on singing two.  I changed my mind.  I strummed the last chord.  Looked at the MC.  And said, "That's good enough. … [Read more...]