4 Reasons To Kiss When You’re Angry

  Jen told me about a friend who hadn't kissed her husband in 4 days.  They were angry with each other.  That seemed odd to me.  It seemed like they were dooming themselves to fail. It's Easy to Stay Angry.  It's Hard to Move Forward. It's easy to get angry with someone.  It's easy to embrace our anger.  And it's easy to become justified and obsess about how we're right and they're wrong.  It's hard to get past it if being angry is what you focus on. There are so many people and … [Read more...]

Are you in the Rabbit Hole?

  Mobile devices.  Text messages.  Email.  Unintentional side conversations.  Web research that turns into an Alice in Wonderland rabbit hole.  It's no wonder it's easy to get lost doing nothing (results) while doing something (activity). It's easier than ever to live walking in circles day after day.  We call each step progress.  Yet the steps lead to nowhere. Then we mount the excuses for why we're not getting anywhere.  Too busy.  Too much to do.  Too tired.  Not enough time. … [Read more...]

Is it time to wake-up or go to sleep?

  I wandered the kitchen lethargically.   My face was long.  Jen asked what was wrong.  "I'm exhausted." It was dinner time.  I was starving and didn't feel like cooking.  I avoided starting a meal for 10 minutes as I wallowed in my tiredness and "don't wanna-ness." Two hours later, Jen said she was exhausted and ready for bed.  I told her I was wide awake.  She was perplexed, "Two hours ago, you were telling me how tired you were."  I said, "I was tired.  I woke-up when I cooked … [Read more...]

The Courage to Live

The other night I met with a man who a friend who connected me with.  We don't know the 'why' behind our connection yet.  We're figuring that out.  He could become a friend, a mentor, a business opportunity...  We'll see. We enjoyed a 3 hour conversation about business, life, and Spirit.  For most of the night, the conversation was spontaneous and authentic.  We were honest and real with one another. At around the two-hour mark, we started talking about the church that Jen and I started in … [Read more...]

Do you want something?

  Yesterday I wrote about my mishaps and poor performance at my church's first open mic night.  The stakes were low.  The mistakes were high.  My disappointment matched the mistakes. I was unprepared.  I was uneasy.  My friend asked me to do this open mic because they weren't sure they'd have enough performers.  I got there.  I saw no shortage of performers.  I could have backed out.  I didn't.  I committed to my friend that I'd get up there.  I also committed to myself.  If we won't … [Read more...]

Do you want to be “One and done”?

I plugged the cable in.  No sound.  Nothing.  Then I tried another cable.  Again.  Nothing. Thirty people were sitting around.  Waiting.  I took someone else's guitar.  Plugged it in.  It worked. I threw the strap around my neck.  And stepped up to the microphone.  3 and half minutes flew by in the blink of an eternity. I got through the song.  Barely.  I was planning on singing two.  I changed my mind.  I strummed the last chord.  Looked at the MC.  And said, "That's good enough. … [Read more...]

Acting a part

  Actors spend hours preparing.  Learning lines.  Committing to the words until they own them.  Knowing their blocking (where they stand and when).  They prepare for the risk.  The big moment.   When they step on stage.  When they reveal themselves in real time.  In front of many, hopefully.  Trying to break a leg. Actors seek auditions.  They look for opportunities to show their talent.  They race rejection, frequently.  When they get the part they invest their blood, spirit and soul … [Read more...]

What are you addicted to?

  "She's getting so big."  A tear welled up in my eye. My girls aren't little babies anymore.  They're turning into toddlers.  With wills and tempers.  They're starting to look like little people.   And I'm sad. I'm a mourner.  I look back and mourn what's passed.  I could look forward and embrace what's coming.  I'm learning to do that.  But undoing decades of looking back takes longer than I'd like. It's hard to create what I want in the world, in my life and in my family when … [Read more...]

What are you avoiding?

I was reading the article.  I wanted to stop.  I was afraid.  What if they reveal a theory I've been working on but haven't released to the world yet.   I was afraid of being disappointed.  In myself, for not getting the idea out soon enough.  Avoiding the article wouldn't help though. If my idea was the same, I'd know someone else thought of it.  I can shift directions with the idea.  I can build on to what's already there.  That's all the world of knowledge is any way.  At some point … [Read more...]

Are you succeeding?

  Roombas are robotic vacuum cleaners.  The roll around the floor vacuuming your room while you're away.  They are successful because they keep moving after they encounter an obstacle.  They If they didn't do this, they'd just suck.  They are successful because they succeed. Most ladders have many rungs.  We succeed from rung to rung to make to the top of the ladder.   The word "Succeed" is derived from the latin,  succedere: to go up or follow after. I usually think about … [Read more...]