It seems the more people we connect with the less there is of us to go around. I start with the default answer of ‘No’ when a friend asks me to do something. I check my calendar. Then I offer a date 3 weeks in the future.
Am I free now? Yes. But I have a false notion of obligation. I feel so little control over my time that I hoard the time I can control. I then squander the time I hoarded instead of spending it wisely … by saying yes to my friend.