The problem with me is that I think that there’s a problem with me. I tell myself and others about that problem. And why I can’t accomplish what I want to accomplish because of the problem.
Where does that leave me? Trapped … with a problem and without the accomplishment the problem kept me from achieving.
The problem is not with me. The problem is what I’m saying.
I am telling myself what I am not capable of. I am telling myself that I screwed it up last time … I’ll probably screw it up again the next time. I am telling myself I don’t know how to do something.
The problem is not with me. The problem is what I’m feeling.
Telling myself all of these things leaves me feeling scared and fearful, small and intimidated, weak and disempowered. When I feel like that what do you think I act like? I act like I feel.
The problem is not with me. The problem is with my pride.
I am afraid of looking bad and I desire to look good. This reflects my fear of being seen as human and flawed. I protect myself and remain hidden … human and flawed. Hiding makes the fear grow. Hiding doesn’t make it any easier.
Today I am making a stand.
I no longer talk to myself in a way that diminishes me or shrinks the possibilities that exist for me or my family in this world. I am shaping my feelings by speaking kindly and encouragingly to myself. I am directing my actions by speaking of what I can do instead of what I can’t.
Will I screw up? The Magic 8 Ball says the chances are good. It’s a 40 year habit I’m breaking. So what! What happens if I don’t take this stand? More of the same problems.
What will I do when I screw up? I am forgiving myself. I am talking to myself in a way that builds me up and cultivates feelings of joy, peace and strength. Right after I kick myself in the ass for screwing up. Eventually, the kicks will get softer, then less, then unnecessary.
The problem with me is going away.
What do you need to start telling yourself to make the problem with you go away? When will you decide? How about today?